By Nathalie Riffard
Here we go! Not only children but also parents are excited about the first day of school. Especially when the child moves from kindergarten to primary school or elementary school, a new phase begins in the child's life and parental pride is mixed with worry. Will the child like their teachers? Make friends quickly? And it will do just fine in class?
"There is a magic inherent in every beginning that protects us and helps us to live," wrote Hermann Hesse. Curiosity and the joy of new things help us to cope with goodbyes and separations. Also in the knowledge that there is no further development without new surroundings and new caregivers, new experiences and new challenges.
5 tips how parents support their child in the first days of school
1 The magic of a new beginning
Starting over can of course be frightening, which is why it is all the more important to build the child's curiosity and anticipation. In kindergarten, the children are often prepared for primary school and during the holidays your child may have happily accompanied you when you buy the school supplies you need. But if in the last few days there is fear of the first day of school, parents can teach the children the magic of a new beginning.
- For example, tell your child about your first day of school. What made the magic on this great day for you?
- Soon you will be able to read stories for yourself or write a letter to your friend. In the shop you can pay yourself or read the clock. Explain to your child why it makes sense to go to school.
- Or read books about the start of school together and answer all the questions that come up. Talking about school helps reduce fears.
- Before starting school, run to school together so that your child knows the way to school and its dangers and can soon proudly walk alone with his friends. You can find tips for safety on the way to school here.
- Children don't need a crammed sugar bag to enjoy going to school. But the joy of it doesn't hurt. It doesn't just have to be candy in there. The first day of school is a big event that should be celebrated. Surprise your child with a small family celebration or a present. It could be a talisman, maybe it is time for your first watch or you would like to sew a gym bag or case yourself.
2 It'll be fine!
From now on the teachers also have a say. Many parents find it difficult to give up their influence in front of the classroom door. Because what has not already been heard or experienced: The teachers are not competent? The Swiss school system is screwed up? And your child is simply too individual for classic lessons? Some criticisms may be justified, but how does it help your child now??
- When early enrollment is good and when it is not
Children are excited enough before they start school. Reconsider your attitudes and prejudices about school for your child, but also for your sake. You and the child benefit most from open and friendly dealings with teachers and a positive attitude towards school. Ultimately, your child will spend a good deal of their life here and only if you also have confidence can your child trustingly engage in school.
3 free time
Back to school is exhausting. Your child will get to know many new people and rules in the first few days and will have to find their way in a completely new environment. Perhaps it is particularly cranky and tired in the first few days in the evening and it is difficult to get out of bed in the morning. Now show patience and understanding. Your child has a lot to deal with. Parents can therefore best support their child now when the daily routine is calm, regular and not full of too many activities and appointments. Give your child time to play, sometimes just to laze around.
4 Your child can do it!
Is your child ready for school?? And you are too? Letting go is also important now. Trust your child to be able to cope with the way to school, make new friends or learn to read on their own. Can you also endure failures or bad phases?. Not everything works immediately, sometimes you stand alone in the playground or you don't get along well with every teacher. Problems of having to deal with it on your own are part of growing up. This is the only way for the child to develop self-confidence and become independent.
5 You don't have any homework
Your child now has homework. And maybe you've bought him a beautiful desk so he can study in peace in his room. In the first years of school, however, small children in particular prefer to study close to their parents. Let your child work at the dining table or the coffee table when they feel more comfortable here. Positive learning experiences at the beginning can be formative for the later time.
And hold back with your own ambition. The child must be motivated to learn and understand the material.